Getting that no, not getting invited, not getting the job you want... all of these types of scenarios can make us feel defeated and disappointed. Maybe you would use more colorful language to describe how you feel when someone rejects you or what you have to offer. No matter how you feel about the situation it can sometimes cause your whole entire day to go crappy because of one wrong no.
What can we do in these moments to change our day for good? I want to offer something that may seem weird at first but definitely provides positive results. Doing these couple of things may not come naturally to you, and honestly, you may choose to do something different. That's okay. You have to do what works for you.
In the past when I got some news I didn't quite like, my brain would begin to think, "Why am I not good enough? Don't they know what I've done? Don't they understand how hard I've worked? Don't they know how bad this hurts?" and on and on. You know all those thoughts that just don't serve you in the end. So now I try to do a few things.
First, when I get bad news I just let myself be frustrated, disappointed, maybe even mad. I recognize how this feels in my body and that while those emotions are big they won't really hurt me. I sometimes do some deep breathing or put my hand on my heart, like I've talked about in the past.
The second thing I try to do is not make it about me. I try to think about them and why they made that choice, then I try to give them the benefit of the doubt. I'll move on to telling myself that I'm good enough, it's okay, I have all I need to get this done myself, or I can find another way, this isn't the only way, they just probably forgot to invite me, or whatever fits the scenario. It doesn't solve the problem, but it doesn't feel so heavy at that point.
I still have a lot of work to do in this area, but I've learned a lot, especially since owning a business, and one of those things is that disappointment is normal and natural. I would even venture to say that it's part of the process of life. So, in my case, if I can choose to take these moments as they really are, just a little learning experience, then it will all work out in the end. I may still be frustrated, disappointed, angry, or mad, but when I can pause and not react to those negative emotions life is always better.
I have learned some of these things from different coaches over the years, one of them being Jody Moore. I have appreciated all of the insights I have gained from listening to her podcast. If you are looking for a good one you may try hers out.
Christy and the family
P.S. Your body is amazing! You are amazing! You are in control!